Indian Marriage party
Last week I went to attaned my cousin (Bro) marig party.
There I noticed we Indians have a very hudge collection of reeti riwaz (traditions) .
The party was in day timing so I attended their seven feres (In India when Bride and groom take seven round of fire, we call it fere) also. Their priest was speaking about the means of each and every feres.
There in one tradition bride and groom shared sweets with each other, priest told to groom that this sweet is shared because your life will be full of sweets like this sweet and you ought to speak sweet with your wife always.
There were many other which I dont remind right now.
The newly married couple was looking very nice.
Attaching one pic.
Over all we enjoyed a lot :)
There I noticed we Indians have a very hudge collection of reeti riwaz (traditions) .
The party was in day timing so I attended their seven feres (In India when Bride and groom take seven round of fire, we call it fere) also. Their priest was speaking about the means of each and every feres.
There in one tradition bride and groom shared sweets with each other, priest told to groom that this sweet is shared because your life will be full of sweets like this sweet and you ought to speak sweet with your wife always.
There were many other which I dont remind right now.
The newly married couple was looking very nice.
Attaching one pic.
Over all we enjoyed a lot :)
posted by Nibs at 2:13 AM
9 Comments:
wht do you think what is the logic
behind marriage rituals. and why marriage is important????
i came across some culture where marriage is not very important and still they live very happy and nice life..even they raise there children. I was in Russia and met some of the ladies who never got married and still living with there sons happily.
Yeah Mayank.. this exist in other countries but not in India thats why India is known for its culture.
But In India people started following this concept also.
But some times i wonder that our ancient culture permitted us to do so many things which can not be justified now a days like gandharva vivah, polygamy or one lady can have many husband and one husband can have many wives and swayamvar, these things are not practiced now a days it means culture it self changes and nothing is absolute in life. and by osho...institution of marriage is not natural because if some one forcefully lives with some body its not natural. and as human being will evolve it would be going to end one day as it is evident in the west..
but i think as long as human beings are living in a society, marriage is the only thing by which you can keep the society in order and intact. it defines clear responsibility for both the partner so that one should feel responsible to other and takes care of there offspring.. that’s how the life runs happily and peacefully......
No Mayank... U misunderstood our ancient culture...
In our ancient culture things were happenning because we can give those xample in Kaliyug and will not say that it is wrong.. like
"gandharva vivah" happend to give a learning for kaliyug because in Kaliyug if any women is devorced then she can marry to other man. (means a women can have more than one husband)
"Lord Krishna used to steal maakhan" it happened to give a learning that if any body steal somthing with out hurting any other person then it is not wrong.
"Lord Krishna married to many whore once" to give a learining to people that whores can also marry.
Thanks nibha for commenting because of this i really started studying the marriage system of our country. but now I think kalyug is much confused about its culture And heritage then satyug…how just read this……
Here is the type of marriage told in manu smriti...
Manu classifies marriages in eight different classes: 1. brahmya 2. daiva (marriage to a priest) 3. aarsha 4. praajaapatya (or kaaya) 5. gandharva 6. aasura 7. rakshasa (Un-civilised) and 8. paishaachya (Satanic).
Those classified into first four above fall under what is known as “arranged marriage” in the present time and means the marriage that is “arranged” by father (or guardian) of a girl. The gaandharva means (in today’s parlance) love marriage which is decided by the girl and the boy seeking to become man and wife. Rakshasa is a forced marriage where a girl is abducted by defeating or killing her relatives and guardians and is forced to marry the abductor and in paishaachya (satanic) marriage the girl is raped and rapist offers (or forces her) to marry her.
Out of these, first five categories of marriages between pure or mixed races are accepted by the religion of Hindus and are considered valid (Mahabharata Book XIII – Anushaasana-Parva 44-009) [2] and the others are considered as sinful and punishable offences.
However, surprisingly Kautilya in arthashaastra Book III, Chapter 2 Verse 13 seem to advise the king to accept “paishaachya-vivah” (rapist offering to marry the girl) if all concerned with such a marriage are happy in the situation (to the satisfaction of the King).
its really confusing some time....but virtually all the things were valid in our good old days... :)
nibha you must read this...
What does Sanskaar of Hindu marriage mean?
It is largely believed that through the Sanskaar of marriage a couple is mentally prepared to accept the responsibility of starting a family by bearing and rearing children therefore it is a social sanction for sexual relationship. This is far from correct......
A Hindu marriage is a Sanskaar that enables a man and a woman to transform their attraction into love, their love into worship (of each other) and finally their worship into sacrifice. It says that once it becomes possible for a couple to set course on transforming this raw attraction into these sophisticated sentiments the society should consider them eligible for having children. Therefore this Sanskaar, which is essentially a mental and spiritual process, cannot be reversed. This is the reason why there is no Sanskrit word equivalent of divorce or divorcee. A Hindu woman is either un-married (kumaarikaa), Married (saubhaagyavatii), Re-married, either after death of husband or after a divorce, (punarbhuu) or widowed (vidhavaa). Similarly a woman, whatever the age is never referred to as a spinster. The only word used by KauMtilya for a divorced (or widowed) woman wishing to re-marry is “kuTuMbakaamaa”.
Talking about different types of marriages could just be to enhance our knowledge.
The sole purpose of marriage could not be about giving birth and raising of the children,doesn't it seem to be very raw?Its a known fact that all other species too do the same without getting committed or without sharing any bond like marriage ,even humans practised the same during the stone ages,its natural.Animals come close for the sole purpose of giving birth to their children and then they do apart because the emotional desire is not so strong in them but if we talk about humans,they have got strong emotional feelings apart from physical desires and this emotional effect is no less than the physical one.I suppose that everyones agress with this,can we easily digest the thought of life without our near and dear ones?I dont think we share any thing physical with them ,just an emotinal string is there("apnae se zayada dard apno ka hota hai"),then imagine what would be the feelings of a person for the one with whom one shares emotional and all other.To cater this emotinal need one needs a partner,and since possessiveness do exist so its hard for us to get apart and this bond is given some term.
In the present scenerio things are changing fast,now people seem to be much bothered about their personal needs and are putting these needs ahead of everything ,they are now scared to take any responsibility,they think it to be a hinderence in their freedom,it may happen that the institution of marriage may disappear in the coming ages but this sacred institution should not be confused with the mere thought of fulfilling physical desires or with continuing the races.Those who are today against it might feel anything foul about other relation(male-female) also............getting my view point?so think human and act human.
You are right Amit. People are becoming like this.
While going through this topic,I found something strange in the original post but that time I forget to ask that,could you please let me know about the purpose of marriage party in the day time? though I haven't got much opportunities to attend such ceremoines(hardly 4-5 times)but as far as I remember they were scheduled for the evening,this is the general practise I suppose....
then day party..?
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